How to be a woman in a man's world without being a man... I'm so confused!

So let me try to get this straight........

A man tells you what to do and how to do your job and he's respected...
A woman tells you what to do and how to do your job and she's a bitch.
Yet if she let's you do whatever you want and doesn't call you on your shit she's too soft.

A man comes to work in a suit and tie everyday and he's dapper....
A woman comes to work in a blazer and heels everyday and she's trying too hard.
Yet if she wore a camisole and a sweater, or yet a button up shirt she shows too much cleavage or skin because if you stand over her you can see down her shirt.

A man works 16 hour days and doesn't spend any time with his family, he's rewarded...
A woman works 16 hour days and doesn't spend any time with her family and she's neglectful.
Yet if she works the 9-5 scheduled shift she's not dedicated.

A man works hard and does everything he can to better himself and he's promoted...
A woman works hard and does everything she can to better herself and she's promoted, and everyone wonders who she's sleeping with.
Yet if she's not working hard and not trying to better herself and still has her job, everyone wonders who she's sleeping with.

A man gets high ratings on his review from hard work and dedication and he gets a great raise...
A woman gets high ratings on her review from hard work and dedication and she get's, eh.
Yet if she doesn't work hard or does the average she gets, eh.

A man will be at work sweating in his shirt and tie putting together displays or getting shit done and no one looks twice...
A woman will be at work sweating in her heels and blazer putting together displays or getting shit done and everyone stops to say "smile."
Yet if she doesn't, she's lazy. And GOD forbid she doesn't smile, then (again) she's a bitch.

A man grabs a screw driver and wrench to move something and again no one thinks twice...
A woman grabs a screw driver and wrench to move something (happened to me JUST last night!!) and she get's applauded for getting her hands dirty or condescension "Isn't there a man around that can do that?"
Yet if she doesn't come up with some witty comment or giggle she's taking things too personal.

So what do you want me to do???? Please tell me, because I HAVE NO IDEA.